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 AnonymousAugust 21, 2016 at 3:54 PM

"I don't parrot the kiruv sales pitch, because no kiruv rabbi would say that it is completely legitimate for orthodox children to leave orthodoxy."

As a matter of fact the kiruv worker who got my child said just that to me, in writing! They harp on the idea that this is a choice. I don't believe for a minute this is a choice. There is peer pressure, love bombing, financial assistance and the constant ogling and attention given to new recruits. As kids becomes deeper enmeshed fewer resources are needed to cement their "choice."

You've developed a nice story about how your parents are to blame for your broken relationship. THEY wouldn't eat with you, THEY wouldn't partake in ceremonies, THEY closed the doors of communication, THEY denigrated religion, THEY didn't have an occasion to see how your religious stance evolved. It's all THEIR fault. The religious group you are a member of is blameless.

I think the group you are a member of encourages you to eliminate anti-religious people from your life. Even if they are your siblings and parents. They are a threat. They might encourage you to leave. They might influence you. Even worse, they might influence your children. They are embarrassing to be seen in public with. They might drive to your house on a Saturday! Better play it safe & keep them at bay unless they agree to follow the rules & behave as you demand. I have news for you, BTexperience, religions don't do that; cults & cult-like groups do.

Thank you for reiterating the widely available information about how to deal with family members in cults and cult like groups. This isn't exactly news to me or to the vast majority of parents whose children were recruited into ultra orthodox Judaism.

Broken Hearted


http://stopkiruvnow.blogspot.com/2016/08/children-of-bts-and-converts-how-theyre.html?showComment=1471809275962#c4277496647016586277

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